Nice, thanks :)

Time to focus.

Definitely rather in my 20s. Good points to consider.

I live in Scandinavia. My other half can take some time off her job after the birth (paid parental leave), and there are no medical bills associated with the birth itself.

Thanks :)

Thanks for another perspective. I should be grateful for many things. Comparison the thief of joy and all that.

Thanks :)

You're right about the last paragraph. At least some sort of affirmation.

Your baby will not be a burden to you; they will be a source of joy. Whilst they bring you happiness, you also have a responsibility

That's a good perspective. I will do my best.

Thanks, man. That's a good point.

Yeah, that resonates with me.

Value-wise, I would describe myself as more family-oriented than career-oriented.

I guess I am just worrying about finding a decent job along the road, also to provide for said family.

Thanks.

I don't know what it's like in Scandinavia, but here, as an employer, I would see it as a positive. Something you can use as a differentiator when interviewing.

Recent graduates often underestimate what really matters to employers, Stability.

Obviously I'm not expecting people to necessarily stay 40 years in the company, but it costs a lot of time effort and money to add a new person to the team. I'd like you to hang around a bit to make that worth it.

Having children makes fathers less "flighty". You're less obsessed with "building a resume" and more interested in the stability of the paycheck, stress-free working environment and so on.

Yes, you'll still leave for a better job, more pay and so on. But it'll be more calculated and less impulsive. Which gives us more opportunity to match your needs with my needs.

In other words the maturity you learn at home translates into more maturity in the office as well.

When interviewing for jobs, lean into words like maturity, responsibility, stability and so on. These things matter.

This makes good sense to me. Thanks a lot for the perspective :)