Excellent post and list. I would only add to that: "Am I with a partner that I want to be with?" or just "Am I overall happy with my partner?".

If the answer is more "No" than "Yes" then you need to figure out the specifics of why that is and either have a long conversation with your partner or find a new one.

Remember: you can't change your partner, but if your requests are reasonable and they truly care about you, then they can change themselves.