If your stance is proportionate to risk, you wouldn't ever leave your child alone with a family friend, or your own siblings for that matter.
The only male family member I'd leave my child with is my father. I have two sisters, so the sibling angle not so big of a deal. And one brother-in-law who is a crimina ldefense lawyer, so won't stay alone in a room with kids anyways :-)
So maybe in some sense the family structure has made it easy for me to sidestep this potential conundrum.
And I agree about education and such. As the child is older I'd certainly relax things, but a toddler isn't going to know what is going on.
And regarding friends, I don't really have any male friends that I'd be comfortable leaving a toddler with -- even sexual abuse aside.
As children get older this changes, but 0-5 I just don't know if my child were around many men alone. And none regularly.
But I will grant you this... I'm at a more extreme side of the spectrum than most when it comes to risk avoidance in general. Especially compared to the HN crowd.
0-5 year olds are especially at risk (compared to older pre-teens) for sexual abuse from some significant number of sick (mostly male) adults? Or your 6+ year olds will be trained to defend themselves?
I was referring to the belief that 6+ year olds can be taught some things to avoid being exploited. At the very least they might be able to state that something has happened.
The only male family member I'd leave my child with is my father. I have two sisters, so the sibling angle not so big of a deal. And one brother-in-law who is a crimina ldefense lawyer, so won't stay alone in a room with kids anyways :-)
So maybe in some sense the family structure has made it easy for me to sidestep this potential conundrum.
And I agree about education and such. As the child is older I'd certainly relax things, but a toddler isn't going to know what is going on.
And regarding friends, I don't really have any male friends that I'd be comfortable leaving a toddler with -- even sexual abuse aside.
As children get older this changes, but 0-5 I just don't know if my child were around many men alone. And none regularly.
But I will grant you this... I'm at a more extreme side of the spectrum than most when it comes to risk avoidance in general. Especially compared to the HN crowd.